Facebook news page gives away son’s taboo party

(Update: The Photo and Video have been removed by request of the Father, who originally sent it to me)

Just this morning I posted how kids don’t want to add their parents as friends in Facebook, and provided the handy crises management template. How timely.

Here’s the story, my friend added his son in Facebook as a connection, today he saw his son left comments on a photo, and it showed up on the father’s newsfeed. He followed the link to the photos and found out his son had a party at his house (with under age drinking) with many kids, and there were pics to prove. His son had previously told his dad he didn’t have a party, but the Father suspected something was off, and Facebook helped clue it all in.

Here’s the video interview, he chose to remain anonymous, I assure you this is no hoax, and if you know me or have been to some events, you’ll recognize the voice. (and maybe the shoes)

(Update: Video removed by Father’s request: fear of legal action)

While underage partying is nothing new (I was a kid too) the dynamics of social media are astounding. The father never would have known about the party if it wasn’t for Facebook.

For some reason, I feel like tagging this post “citizen journalism”.

  • Perhaps this is the biggest threat to the Facebook ‘cool factor’ – younger users will migrate away to other social networks to evade their parents and other authority figures (employers, schools etc).

    There’s an obscure social network already out there somewhere (or yet to be launched) that will become the ‘next big thing’.

  • I agree, in fact we saw this happen to MySpace, when the marketers moved on, so did the cool kids.

  • There’s a county commissioner here in Minnesota trying to get a county-wide ordinance passed, which would make the parent responsible for the underage drinking, even if they weren’t aware of the situation. Photos or video could be used as evidence in this case, to prosecute the parent for contributing to the delinquency of a minor. http://www.startribune.com/106/story/1358571.html

  • Adam

    This is the exact reason why this parent asked me to remove the photo and video

  • Rob Bain


    The ordinance that you are talking about is already in effect here in Palo Alto. I know of two families that have been charged by the police for providing alcohol to kids under 21. Both sets of parents were 100% unaware that a party was taking place at their homes.

    When you aren’t at home, it might make sense to lock your teens out…

    That was smart Jeremiah to pull that guys video and photo off your blog.

  • I’ve told a lot of nervous parents that if they want to find out what their kids are up to on MySpace, Facebook etc… that they should JOIN MySpace, Facebook etc.

    Just goes to show you…

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  • I manage 7 public libraries & due to CIPA MySpace is filtered to those under 17, so the kids are on Facebook if they access at the library. I really WISH that parents were on Facebook with their kids so they wouldn’t blame my staff for what their kids are doing. We are not social workers, law enforcement or parents.

    As a parent, I heard my daughter talking about Facebook & asked her to add me. She did & I realized that she was using a nickname (wise). I won’t embarass her though because I don’t want to violate her trust. (even though that’s my job in real life 🙂 ). Now that she’s going to college, I’m hoping that it will be another connecting point if she wants.

    And her response to my having a Facebook account was quite an odd face! (hence the name?!) and I saw her perusing my profile later.. which I think she found rather boring.